I think Guerilla's going at me, not you, so don't worry about that.
Don't take it from me as hostility. It's just me being blunt. It's just my way.
To answer your question, it has nothing to do with the word "you" or "I", it was the wording of the "I don't want to work with people that don't want to work." that I was talking about. There's a distinct way the brain works based on the language that you use. If you use the phrase "I don't want to work with people that don't want to work." your brain focuses on people you don't want to work with. If you phrase your language to "How do I find self motivate people to work with?" the brain concentrates (subconsciously) of ways to find people who are motivated. There's more to it, but that's the basics of it.
Does that clarify this?
How do you find self motivate people to work with?
They're already too busy doing their own thing.
First, I believe motivated is more than one trait. It's a combination of traits and comes in many different forms. I look for people who have the correct traits that means they are motivated within the role that works for both them (short and mid term) and works for me.
The truth of the matter, there are a large number of hard working, motivated people out there who are not natural leaders. In fact, most of them can't and don't want to lead. They're often looking for strong leaders that will help them achieve their goals and dreams.
More to the nitty gritty of it, when I first meet people (usually on a working basis), I lean towards finding out who they say they are. I observe and work with them. I usually avoid the dreamers, the posers and the deadbeats (and similar). I look first and foremost to attitude. If they're the kind of person (for example) who gets in there and works as part of a team, kicking in to help when needed instead of sitting back I pay special attention to them. The next part is really important. I get to know them. Find out who they are. What they are like. Where they want to be in the next couple of years. I'm really looking for people who are a good fit (for both sides) for my journey. The key to motivation from this point is trust. I look out for their interests, which in turn is also looking out for my interests. It's about team building, and building a future for the team.
Another point is goals may change and/or win/win situations change over time. If it's no longer a win/win situation, you have to cut the cord. This is doubly so if it's no longer a win/win situation for the other side. You need to recognize this and give them a graceful out option. The rest of your team will respect you for it.
That's my style. Your style is likely to be different. You have to work out what works best for you.
Every person is motivated by something different. People are at different stages of their life, all looking for different things. For instance, for me money isn't very motivating, though success is, and money is a method of keeping track, therefore small amounts of money don't serve to motivate me, though very large amounts that a big success brings, can motivate me.
It seems to be something that plagues "creative fields."
It plagues people full stop. Anyone trying to be a boss or putting teams together struggle with this. It's not limited to creative fields. Earlier I missed a general thing about most people. They try to get the most for the least amount of effort. The art of motivating people is getting them to be motivated so they can achieve their best, instead of kicking in the bare minimum to get through.
Most of the time when people are having troubles with motivating people, the issue stems from other areas and most of them are the fault of the leader. Picking the wrong team, incorrectly identifying what motivates the team, not being the kind of leader who who motivates your team and so on.
As I said it's not the only way, just the way that I see things. You can find another method that works for you if you don't think this will work.
I consider myself quite motivated but at the end of the day if I have paid work on, that's going to take precedence over anything someone wants me to do for free. If I like it enough and can fit it in I'll do it, but that doesn't happen too often
