Preparing My Cast for Romance Scenes?

This is my first post in this forum, so I apologize in advance if I have posted under the wrong heading or any such error as that.

I am in pre-production for an experimental indie film (drama/comedy). I am both directing and playing a small role in the feature. I have directed several short films and one feature-length film before so I am no stranger to the craft, but this is the first film that I have ever attempted on my own...that is, without any sponsor or organization backing me financially. All of my expenses come out of my own pocket, so I am trying to pinch pennies where I can.

I am quite used to working with professional actors and actresses that I have "borrowed" from theatre companies nearby me. However, for this film, due to budget and a necessary relocation I recently made, I have auditioned and casted people in my area who have very little experience with serious acting. I have seen evidence of acting talent within them, and I know they are very committed to the filmmaking process and I believe they are up to the challenge and will perform magnificently. All the same, three or four of them are a little bit nervous about the scripted love scenes.

As I am used to working with professional acting talent, I have never had to push anybody too far out of their comfort zone in order to shoot a love scene before. The scenes in this film are essential plot devices and cannot be cut without scaling back the story. The scenes themselves don't really feature anything more than "making out" (passionate kissing, potential tongue kissing, tight embraces, etc.) so it should, by no means, be a jarring leap into the jaws of death for any acting talent in particular. They have all committed to this knowing that the aforementioned scenes were necessary elements, but that doesn't seem to make them feel any less awkward about the days we will be filming them.

That said, any thoughts on how far I can push my first-time, somewhat-inexperienced acting talent before I cross the line and become overbearing or intimidating? Would it be wrong of me to encourage them to practice the kissing scenes with their co-stars before coming to set? Any advice on what I can say or do to make this experience easier for them? Should I schedule these scenes to be knocked out first, so as to clear the awkwardness out of the way as quickly as possible?

I'm sure everything will turn out just fine in the end, but between here and there, I want the film to be the best it can possibly be, and I want to keep my cast interested and excited about this project. Since this seems to be a bit of a mental roadblock for a few of them, I want to be sure to handle it in the best way that I can as a director.

So, any ideas?
 
Shoot those scenes FIRST, if they can't or won't perform, replace them, pronto. Do it this way, you'll be holding all the aces. The burden will be on them to do whatever is needed to please the director.


If you shoot ANY of the other scenes first, you'll be married to the actor(s). With this bad hand no poker face will be able to save you if you can't get the performance you need.
 
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First contact shouldn't be when the cameras roll, but encouraging them on their own time to be familiar with each other is a weird thing to do. Run some space drills with them while the camera dept is setting up earlier in the day, get them all up in eachother's business then have them briefly practice the scene with you and any other crucial cast crew there explaining how you want it, that way they'll be more comfortable around eachother AND avoid take 32 in front of a larger crowd/crew come the real deal.
 
I like Paul's advice. I was (mostly) kidding about the tequila. Angel's advice seems sound, but I worry about the pair not having any chemistry. Maybe a happy-medium would be to shoot this scene at the end of the first or second day? Give them a chance to become comfortable with each other?
 
That's Lloyd Kaufman's rule #1. If they have nudity or anything else they may hesitate to do, shoot it first.

Clear all unnecessary people from set. Nobody there who doesn't have to be there. Keep the mood light. A glass of wine while they are in makeup, also, not a bad suggestion at all.
 
I'm sure that I've heard actors, as well, say in interviews or commentaries that they like to do those scenes first, too, because they also are glad to get them out of the way and behind them.
 
Am I the only one who thinks that telling the actors up front they'll have to perform nude is not the right way to do things?

Casting 1

Director: "Before we begin this audition, the role you're applying for requires some nudity during a sex scene - are you okay with this?"
Actress: "Um, well, can't we kind of do it under the blanket?"
D: "No, it's a hot scene and I want it to come across as such - I want the viewer to be pretty turned on while watch, although, NOT in a porn way."
A: "What do you mean?"
D: "You and the bloke are naked, he grinds against you whilst you both look into the mirror."
A: "Um, I don't know..."

Casting 2

D: "...requires some nudity...sex scene...okay?"
A: "That's fine."
D: "What I want to shoot is the actor playing Jack to stand behind you while you kneel on the bed and he slams hard and fast as you both look into the mirror."
A: "I can do that."

See the difference? The second actress is okay so we talk a little dirtier to push her comfort zone... no change. We could ask if they've performed nude before, done sex scenes before, ask him/her to strip there and then and blow you (JOKE!), but if there's no problem with an important scene, why even risk the first one?

On alcohol:
Use a HOT DRINK instead. Hot drinks make one more comfortable/at ease (hence a tea or coffee given to guests), raise body temperature and would have the performer feel like it's less of a big deal than it is for them to need Dutch Courage.
Alcohol may also cause some unexpected results, depending on the amount consumed...
 
Am I the only one who thinks that telling the actors up front they'll have to perform nude is not the right way to do things?

They should know this before they're even assigned a date/time for the audition. If they have an issue with it, they shouldn't make through the front door to start with.
 
Am I the only one who thinks that telling the actors up front they'll have to perform nude is not the right way to do things?

Casting 1

Director: "Before we begin this audition, the role you're applying for requires some nudity during a sex scene - are you okay with this?"
Actress: "Um, well, can't we kind of do it under the blanket?"
D: "No, it's a hot scene and I want it to come across as such - I want the viewer to be pretty turned on while watch, although, NOT in a porn way."
A: "What do you mean?"
D: "You and the bloke are naked, he grinds against you whilst you both look into the mirror."
A: "Um, I don't know..."

Casting 2

D: "...requires some nudity...sex scene...okay?"
A: "That's fine."
D: "What I want to shoot is the actor playing Jack to stand behind you while you kneel on the bed and he slams hard and fast as you both look into the mirror."
A: "I can do that."

See the difference? The second actress is okay so we talk a little dirtier to push her comfort zone... no change. We could ask if they've performed nude before, done sex scenes before, ask him/her to strip there and then and blow you (JOKE!), but if there's no problem with an important scene, why even risk the first one?

The scenes are non-nude and the actors and actresses have were all pre-informed of exactly what the level of physicality would be. I'm not worried that they will refuse follow through on their commitment to the film, but as they are inexperienced and unused to these types of scenes, I am worried about their performance being affected by their comfort level. Put bluntly, I am looking for the best way to put timid acting talent at ease with having a stranger's tongue in their mouth. lol
 
As an actor who has had to do sex scenes, I wouldn't worry too much. I was nervous for the first take, sure, but after lying in bed with the girl take after take, and continuing to lay there between camera setups and lighting fixes, we become very comfortable pretty quickly.

The girl even asked one of the PAs to snap a photo, which I didn't mind at all :)

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Sorry for the misconstruction - I thought that you'd asked some "actors" to perform and then kind of sprung the sex scene on them.

On kissing: tongues are rarely used (in the other's mouth) on screen. Actually, it's pretty easy to fake French kissing and angles make it even easier.

Let us know how your scene went!
 
This thread has been a good read because I have just wrote a short which involves a sex scene which is integral to the story (wife cheating) and its always been an area of film that i have found difficult to approach and what the best way was.

The scene i have written i want to be real and gritty (not porn) but i want it to feel authentic.... woman and man will be having sex, their bottom halves covered by the bed sheets but top half naked.
Obvioulsy I will do a casting call but im nervous having the woman topless in the scene although nothing will be seen as I will use strategic shots will put potentially great actresses off the role...

Can anyone see ways around this scenario?
 
This thread has been a good read because I have just wrote a short which involves a sex scene which is integral to the story (wife cheating) and its always been an area of film that i have found difficult to approach and what the best way was.

The scene i have written i want to be real and gritty (not porn) but i want it to feel authentic.... woman and man will be having sex, their bottom halves covered by the bed sheets but top half naked.
Obvioulsy I will do a casting call but im nervous having the woman topless in the scene although nothing will be seen as I will use strategic shots will put potentially great actresses off the role...

Can anyone see ways around this scenario?

Well when working with professional actresses (which I'm assuming you will be), it's not usually quite as big an issue....if my actresses were experienced professionals, I wouldn't have been concerned enough to start the thread. :D In my experiences thus far, it's best to just give a disclaimer before the actress auditions. It's always awkward to have to mention something like that, but things go a lot smoother if she's made aware up front. Something like, "Now before you start, I just want to let you know that the character you're auditioning for is scripted as having a topless sex scene that is rather essential to the plot of the film. It will be tastefully filmed, and if you're casted we will be sure not to expose any more than is necessary to the audience. Are you going to be comfortable with that?" Because getting comfortable with uncomfortable romance scenes is one of the first things actors and actresses learn when receiving professional training, most actresses respond really well to these sorts of requests. Any who don't will simply walk out the door to avoid wasting your time. If an actress is to be (as you put it) great, she must be willing to make herself comfortable with roles like these. As far as authenticity goes, however, I think that's something that will come naturally with multiple takes and repeated constructive input from you as the director.
 
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